By Ms Scarlett of Cuckold Fantasies
"Cuckold" is derived from the Old French for the Cuckoo bird"Cocu" with the pejorative suffix -ald. The earliest written use of the Middle English derivation, "cockwold" occurs in 1250. The females of certain varieties of Cuckoo lay their eggs in other bird's nests, freeing themselves from the need to nurture the eggs to hatching. In medieval Europe, the law, custom, and the church all defined married women as a category of property held by their husbands. Although Christian marriage vows strictly enjoined sexual exclusivity in a marriage for both partners, custom rarely enforced it on the husband (although Catholic doctrine held infidelity by either party to be a mortal sin).
A nuance of the word often overlooked in contemporary usage is that it refers to a man who, like the bird warming the cuckoo's eggs, is unaware of his victimization. A man who knows and acquiesced, in his wife's taking of another lover was call a "wittol", itself a derivation from the Middle English for "willing (as in knowing) cuckold."
There are numerous variations on cuckolding or being cuckolded:
The cuckold male could be made to only watch the woman dress up to go out for the night, yet knowing she is out looking for another man and there is nothing he can do except wait for her return and either just observe her appearance which is obviously different from when she left.
Another cuckold male could be made to wait up for her and quietly listen to all the details of her night with another man.
Then there are the cuckold males who must sit and watch as she brings home a man she has met and has sex while he is in the same room. Other cuckold males may only be allowed to stay in the next room, peek through a crack in the door or hide in a closet to only listen or watch in secret.
Most of the time, however, the cuckold male is made to sit in the same room and watch. He could be coerced to wear panties and lipstick to further his submissiveness and humiliation (this is sometimes called sissy cuckolding). While watching he could be laughed at, ridiculed, made fun of what he is wearing and taunted about his inabilities to satisfy the woman.
There are also cuckold scenarios in which the cuckold male either willingly or demanded to take part in the sexual acts he is observing. This could range from allowing him to lick his wife as preparation for her lover or "fluff", stroke or suck the male, to arouse him for her pleasure.
Another form of the cuckold participating would be as the one who cleans up by using his tongue on both after they have had sex. In some cases the cuckold male may even be made to give oral sex to the woman's lover or be taken by the male anally.
In any of these cuckold cases the point it total submissiveness and total humiliation at being the cuckold "victim".
So why do these men enjoy watching? One is that they want to see their wife or girlfriend enjoy sexual fulfillment that they cannot provide. Another is having a small penis and rather than her leave for a better lover it's understood she will stay with him as long as she is in total charge of who and when and how she chooses a sexual partner.
Another form of being a cuckold male is by pretending he is bound and helpless and coerced to watch. This is often used when the cuckold male has a wife or girlfriend who is very conservative sexually and a stranger or intruder forces her to do things she wouldn't even consider with her husband and as this "stranger" continues to ravage his mate she can't help but become totally aroused and begins enjoying what he is doing to her and lets loose like the cuckold mate has always wanted her to do.
By allowing himself to be her cuckold he takes the submissive position and endures the humiliation if it means she will be completely fulfilled sexually. Watching another man have sex with her and seeing her react to him naturally arouses the cuckold male and if allowed to masturbate while watching will have an intense orgasm.
Many men will not admit they have a submissive side, yet when put in the position of being a cuckold man they find themselves aroused by the humiliation felt as being enjoyable.....So this is why the cuckold gets turned on by cuckolding.